So I have never had a really good relationship with my "father". He has never been there for me. Even when I was a child and still going to his house every other weekend I was always treated as an outsider by him and his whole side of my family. When I was about 10 I desided that I was over being treated like crap and I spoke to my mom about it. She then went to my dad and explained to him how I was feeling. He didnt care and agreed for me not to have to come back. The following year he moved to Logan ohio for his job. I seen him once around Christmas because I wanted to not because he did. After that he moved again for his job to kentucky and I never seen or heard from him again until some random day in the summer of 2005. I found out he was back in ohio and my husband and I went to visit. I seen him a couple times here and there and then it stopped again. In October of 2006 I found out I was pregnant and magicly he reappeared in my life again. Once my daughter was born he came over to see her. Again months went by with no word from him. Finally I got a hold of him Via phone and had a long conversation with him. I got brave and asked him why I never heard from him as a child. Why he never called on birthdays or christmas or just to see how I was doing. He then said something to me that I will never forget for the rest of my life and I will never forgive him for. He said " well I moved to Kentucky and I have 5 other kids so you were out of site out of mind".
Im sorry number one who the hell says that to there child regaurdless. Number 2 how could you "forget" about one of your children....your first born child....I then gave him a chance to have a relationship with his granddaughter. I told him that he is not going to run in and out of her life like he did mine, I gave him one rule, he must call at least once a week. He agreed to that but not before trying to lay a guilt trip on me like it was my fault that he was a bad father. well he lasted about 2 weeks with the rule and then it was back to nothing again. I tried to be nice and still keep him around in one way or another. I had him added as a friend on facebook so that he could watch Corah grow but I still never got a phone call or anything other then a "like" on a damn post. The straw that finally broke the camels back was this. I sent him an invitation for Corahs 4th birthday over a month in advance. He never responded to me about it but my sister told me they were coming. Well then about a week before the party I sent him a message asking if he was coming and he said "I dont know yet because I dont have the other kids this weekend". Im sorry what the hell does that have to do with coming to your granddaughters birthday or not. So to keep the peace like I always do I just said ok. He never showed up to corahs party but he did give my sister his car so that she could come. When my sister showed up I asked her where my father was and she told me that "he couldnt come because he had to meet his new girlfriends mother" Really?! that couldnt have waited till the next day???? At that point I gave up, I deleted his number from my phone deleted and blocked him from facebook and I havent heard from him since.
Its pretty sad when your stepfather is and has always been more of a father to you then your own.
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